All dads are different, so it can be a challenge to find the perfect gift for Father’s Day. There are sports dads, handy dads, and dads who cannot publicly acknowledge your existence. What do you get a man who already has everything, including three other children who live in a nice neighborhood and are allowed to use his last name?

Your first instinct may be to buy Dad something he can proudly display at home, but that could raise unnecessary questions. Rather than a framed “World’s Greatest Dad” placard, make one that says, “Employee of the Year.” A fitting tribute, given how hard Dad works to pay for the one-bedroom apartment you share with your mom and the jet ski Dad’s wife Linda thinks he returned.

Personalized gifts are always meaningful. However, avoid anything that Linda could discover at Dad’s real house—which you remember from the time your mother parked across the street and quietly cried as you admired the trampoline. Instead, consider gifts Dad can tape to the underside of his desk at work, such as a photo of the two of you from the afternoon he carved out time to play three holes of mini-golf.

If you’re hoping to get Dad a keepsake he can show off, consider adopting a nickname you can engrave on a watch that won’t raise suspicion, like “Timex.”

If Dad loves gadgets, get him a burner phone. Make sure to pre-load it with your phone number listed under “Bill from Marketing.” You can even put a reminder alert in his calendar app so that he might call sometime during your birthday month.

Opt for experiences whenever possible. A pair of tickets to a Mariners game can create lasting memories while still respecting the challenges of his double life. It may not feel ideal to sit ten sections apart, but he’ll appreciate your consideration of his desire not to appear beside you on the jumbotron.

Similarly, a gift certificate for a family dinner can offer quality time together in the back room of the Denny’s that Dad loves three towns over.

Or prepare Dad a special homemade meal, provided he doesn’t mind that your kitchen table is a tablecloth draped over a jet ski.

A thoughtful card can also show Dad that you care. Instead of ending your note with, “You’re a great dad. Love, Timmy,” try something equally heartfelt, like, “Outstanding sales numbers this quarter! Hope to someday use the trampoline. Sincerely, Bill from Marketing.”

Remember that flexibility is what makes your family special. While many children observe Father’s Day on the third Sunday in June, your father may be unable to celebrate with you due to conflicting brunch reservations or the Little League game he’s coaching for Michael Jr., the only son on his dental plan. You may have better luck on a quieter Tuesday in November.

The most successful gifts are those that reflect the reality of your relationship—deeply felt, carefully contained. Of course, discretion isn’t always financially realistic. If cash is tight this Father’s Day because Michael Jr.’s orthodontist is out-of-network, remember that tagging Dad in a public “Happy Father’s Day ❤️” Facebook post costs nothing and could make this his most memorable Father’s Day yet.