Why Your High School Friends Don't Like You Anymore

Guy looking lonely by high school lockers

I was minding my own business, being creepy and looking at people's profiles on PIC, when an instant message popped up from what can only be described as the biggest buzz kill ever. We're going to call this douchebag Steve, because that's his name, and I could care less about protecting the identity of someone who wastes my time with stupid questions.

Steve starts moaning about how as soon as he graduated from high school last year, none of his old friends wanted to play Partini with him anymore. I tried to explain to him that hardly anyone stays friends with their buddies from high school. That's just the way it goes. Against my words of wisdom, he decided not to cash my reality check and kept bitching about how no one would call him back anymore.

Steven: But it's so stupid! They don't have to stop calling me...

Me: Well, you like Jenga and ROTC and college kids like LSD and genitals.

I'm sure you can figure out how the rest of the conversation went down, and if you guessed that it ended in me blocking him, you'd be right. You kids are so smart. I think it's all the estrogen they put in the chicken.

How many people did you pretend to like throughout high school just because you got put into the same ceramics class? Anyway, the whole situation with Steve got me thinking about how he probably isn't the only one who is or is going to get a smack in the face when they realize that Anthony from third period English won't return their text messages anymore. This being the case, I decided to compile a list of the top three reasons why your high school friends don't like you anymore. Maybe it'll help you sleep a little better at night. It probably won't though.

3. It's Kind of Inconvenient

No offense, but when you get accepted into college, all you're thinking about is how many parties you're going to go to, how many copies of Spark Notes you're going to have to buy, and how once and for all you can finally stop your mom from putting those Ninja Turtle sheets on your bed. You are definitely not going to worry about whether your friend Steven is going to ROTC camp to climb rock walls.

There are so many things going on and so many people to meet that it's a lot to have to try to maintain contact with old friends who may be halfway across the country—friends you know you'll probably never see again until your 10-year high school reunion. They're not being assholes, they're just not putting effort into something they assume is improbable in the long run.

2. You're Sort of Boring Now

From the moment I walked in the doors my freshman year, my peers were chosen for me. Maybe, if I wanted to get a little crazy, I'd escape and go hang out with kids from the neighboring towns. Other than that, I just spent the last four years of my life with the same people, five or more days a week, and frankly, that story about how you and your buddy got so shit-faced that you ended up puking in the back seat of his mom's Volvo really isn't that funny after I've heard it 19 times. There aren't any new, amazing pieces of ass to get or talk about, no upperclassmen to gush over, and let's face it: you're probably not going to make it to States, so just let it go man. Let it go.

All of this adds up to one boring ass year, involving a bunch of boring ass people with no new stories, sitting around saying, "Well what do you guys want to do?" That's why they call it senoritis and I definitely would not want to relive that kind of shitty deja vu once I finally got out.

1. They're Just Not That Into You

The fact of the matter is that if you were really close with these people and they really, really liked you, they would have at least made some sort of half-assed attempt at staying in contact with you. Even if you were thousands of miles away and super busy, if you guys were really BFFLS, they would have at least poked you on Facebook or something. So if you're sitting there, reading this sham of an article, pokeless and lonely, then chances are those "friends" of yours probably didn't like you that much to begin with.

How many people did you put up with and pretend to like throughout high school, just because it was easier than starting a civil war every year when you inevitably got put into the same ceramics class? Seriously. I bet it's a lot and in this case, you're probably the kid they put up with. It's okay. Don't feel bad. Well, maybe you should feel a little bad.

So those were the top three reasons why you're friends from high school won't return your calls. It happens to the best of us, it happens to the worst of us. Trust me when I tell you that you're not alone. Over time you'll make new friends and you won't feel so bad about your best friend from little league taking you off their MySpace. Until then, well... I can always introduce you to Steve.

C'mon, one more:

I think this more applies to the high school kids that were not allowed to sit at the "cool" table. aka losers.

Hamish West's picture

I don't seem to have this problem.

John Gillespie's picture

I wish I would have gotten this guide 3 years earlier, it would have saved me a lot of tears and self esteem.

Matt Strickler's picture

Personally, I never "put up with" anybody. If I didn't like you, I made it abundantly clear for you to leave me alone. I don't waste time trying to think of the next lame excuse, or reason why I don't want to talk to you. Just cause your emotionally weak and can't stand to be alone for more than a day. Piss off, fuck you, or die slow, whatever two word combination you put to the test, one of them has to work.
P.S. Real friends never leave, and they never have to ask why....

This article is spot on. I just got out of high school in a small town where everyone knows everyone and my classmates from high school were the same ones from kindergarden. I spent so many years, like you said, putting up with the same people and smiling everyday that, the moment I graduated, that smile faded and the "I don't give a shit about you" expression filled my face. I've had people tell me that I'm different that I'm not the social/ happy/ smiling person I was. But frankly, I'm sick of these same old people, with their same old hair and their same old problems/ mentalities I just have no patience and really I don't see myself contacting them for a long long while lol.
It's nothing personal.. I just need a chance of scenery.

Andrei Trostel's picture

Very true and funny.
When I started college I all but disappeared, on purpose, in a very Grosse Point Blank kind of way. ;-)

It's true, we all get used to putting up with people we've known since grade school. High school "buddies" , I didn't realize how much I didn't like most of them until I graduated and got a new life.

Uh....the author is 18 years old. Shows. Come back when you grow up, kid.

yeah, this person is going to have a big shocker when their college buddies stop liking them, party it up dumb ass.

I'm from germany and this seems to be an american problem. i mean could happen to some people here too but it's not significant

This never happend to me. Maybe this is a rich kid problem.
I love my high school buddies. I think maybe he just had a bunch of d-bag friends, and he, himself was a d-bag.

Its funny how this dude is writing in this tone like he was mr.badass... realy... how the scool bullies grow up to be the nice guys and the bullied grow up to be the cats in the tight tee shirts that think its cool to hang out at the gym and love to say "oh yeah"... "high school kids love jenga and rotc"... no Lauren Burgstahler, only the ones that didn't get invited to the parties did that.

rofl its so funny how you suckers thnk that your preassumptions about people are right. if i look at you straight in the face and tell you the thing i just mentioned i will give you three options:

- you admit i am right
- you look straight back at me with a hollow brain and repeat your imprinted message of "coolness"
- you look away because you are too embarassed

you have no idea how many people look down upon you but do nothing because they feel no need to, becuase they aren't like you. a matter of choice, not a matter of ability. right back at you fuckers =)

I'm still IN highschool but my freinds seem to not want anything to do with me, and i didn't change in any way. How do you explain that?

Um, you're in high school and that's what high schoolers do? Trust me, a year after you graduate, you won't give a fuck anymore. Nothing is as dramatic as it seems in high school. Except for like rape and stuff.