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I am a believer in the idea that if you want it bad enough, you can
get it. And girls, this is especially true when in search of a
compatible male. Because seriously, guys are not that complicated.
Once you have him figured out he's yours, strings attached (or not,
depending on what you're into). Before I go any further you must go
into this thinking there is no reason he wouldn't be into you, you
are just as good as him, and you look damn hot. Be overconfident and
think you're the shit. Picture Kristen from Laguna.
So you've been into this guy for a
while—he might be your best friend, or he might not know you exist.
The first thing you want to do is
find out what he's into. Does he play sports? What kind of music
does he like? Who does he hang out with? Once you have your hands on
this information, figure out what you have in common. Do you both
love indie rock or are you both huge Steelers fans? It is important
that you guys like some of the same things. If the only common
interests you can come up with are beer and the school you go
attend, you might want to reconsider this conquest.
"Try to get his phone number when you're not
totally drunk; waking up and seeing him under 'bqosten,' with the
number 802728374829 will bum you out." Now that you know a little
about him, be confident. Confidence is a major turn-on for most
guys. That being said, before you get ballsy enough to call him,
find a way to "run into him," or somehow make his acquaintance. The
best way to do this is to work his party scene into your schedule.
If he's in a fraternity, this is especially easy. If he's not in a
fraternity, you should still be able to figure out where he parties,
and end up there yourself. Once at the party, if you can get someone
to introduce you, the game is on and the ball is in your court.
Now that he has met you, it's time to get his phone number. This is
a lot easier if you have been drinking. However, I recommend you do
this when
you're not totally drunk; waking up in the morning and seeing
him in your phonebook under "bqosten" with the phone number
802728374829 will probably bum you out. Once you've got the digits
don't be afraid to use them. It's cool if you want to wait a day or
two, but don't give it too long because it really really sucks
introducing yourself on the phone as, "Hey it's Ali, remember me?
From Chad's party? Blue shirt? Red hair? No? Shit." The best time to
call him is when you know something cool is going on. I have found
that the most chill situation is when one of my good friends is
having a party. This way you know it will be fun and you will be one
of the only people he knows there.
As long as you have kept your shit together at this party, i.e. no
puking on his shirt, run-ins with your ex, spillage, or party fouls
in general, you should be on for round two. In round two I think
it's best to downsize from a full-blown rager to just chilling with
him and some friends. From this point on it shouldn't be hard to
downsize to a one-on-one match.
While you're reeling him in, try to
give him your phone number at the party and wait a couple of days.
Now that he knows you, it will totally boost your confidence if he
gives you a call. If he doesn't call, I still say give it a try; if
he doesn't answer or return your message at least you know he's an
asshole before you waste any more time. Also, if you do get wasted
the first time you chill, try not to sleep with him. We've all done
this before—sometimes it works out and sometimes it bites you in the
ass. All guys like getting laid but in general they don't like
getting laid by sluts—and if they do they probably won't call you
the next day and probably will give you an STD.
These tidbits of advice should work, however there are certain
situations in which it is clever to just back off. For example, if
he has a girlfriend don't even begin trying to lure him to you. If
you do go after him or hook up with him while he is "taken," you can
pretty much be guaranteed some serious repercussions from his woman
and her friends, and you'll lose your second chance to hook up with
him because you'll always be "the girl he cheated with." There is
also the
occasional man-whore who cannot be tamed. This kind of guy
loves to play games and loves to chase/be chased, but unless
you're looking for one night of fun I wouldn't waste your smooth
tactics on him. Leave that to the freshman girls (no offense, I did
it when I was there too). Lastly, if he is one of your friends'
ex-boyfriends, I say stay away. He may be ridiculously hot, fun and
into you, but unless you're willing to sacrifice your relationship
with your girl for a relationship with this guy, just stay away. Now
go get 'em girls.
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