Great post man,

I had the same problem and found that I couldn't turn my brain off and still function. Until I discovered perhaps man's greatest invention beer. It allows me to be dumber than what I actually am and I don't have any of that the way she just twidled her hair that means something important stuff ups that I usually do when sober.

I think it was Nietzche who said constantly talking about yourself and drawing attention to yourself is just another way to hide *paraphrased. Maybe the person you project is someone that you know won't get you what you want but it won't leave you with any short-term damage. Grow some balls and put your damn goodself out there and you'll be fine